Author: myrealityinblackandwhite

came to stay

It has been almost a year since that day you arrived. I thought it was going to be forever. I thought you came to stay. Stay here, building a new life. You have that soul deep down, the one I fell in love with. But when you came to stay your soul must have stayed away. I wanted to hold you in my arms. Your plans were different than I thought. I felt as though you kinda forgot to gather me up and bring me along. Left in the dust of what you were building. I felt I couldn’t keep up. But then it changed. Staying wasn’t part of the game. It felt more like you came to play. When the fun left you did too. The ideals of what was wanted could not be sustained. Expectations grew crooked but neither to blame when we both knew you came to stay.


5 year wondering

Today I find myself motivated and yet still missing something. I want to accomplish things. Loss has been a motivator for me for quite some time, probably my entire life. I have lost much. People, places, things. This fact lends itself to why I have acquired so much stuff. It is also the reason I cling to people so tightly. Change has also been a constant in my life. Just when I feel settled something comes in and takes it.

I have only ever lived in one place (home, apt, town…) for five years at a time. I thought my last apartment was going to be the last apartment I would live in and I would then move into a forever home. 3 year ago I moved into yet another apartment. My focus is on the fact that I have now been at a job for 5 years. This has never happened to me before. I have struggled the last 2 years about whether I should look for new employment or not. I enjoy most aspects of my job. However, I am finding that I am not in agreement with the way the company I work for is run. I know that my skills are worth more. I have begun my search again. I have also launched more things in my business than ever before.

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For the last week and a half, it seems. I have been searching for an answer to why I am having sudden unpleasant physical medical symptoms. Most major things have been ruled out. I recently had an encounter with a former state psych hospital and upon going I was worried about bad energy while there because I am an empath and as a child, I went to Ellis Island and could feel the suffering. I was only in this place for maybe 45 mins and did not feel any energy while there. good or bad.

A few days later my neck was so stiff I could not turn my head. Within a few days, that resolved, only to come down with strep throat. 4 days into the anti-biotics my entire body, all my joints, filled with lymph fluid. Just putting my feet on the floor was excruciating. 2 ER visits and 2 primary doc visits still no answers. I have swollen hands and feet today and numbness n my one arm. as a matter of fact, I keep having to stop typing to shake and rub my hand. In Walmart 2 days ago I had to stop in the middle of the store and take off my shoe because my foot felt numb and cold. My foot looked fine and I just went along.

If I had only one symptom I feel like I would chalk it up to a minor thing, but its day after day now of back and forth symptoms. Today we are back to my neck and hands and feet. not my whole body thankfully. I am taking a break from work to curb my stress a bit. I have asked some fellow empaths for advice to help heal my body. Hoping that this just an energy thing since the medical field has not found a single answer.

I will continue searching, allergist, neurologist, and chiropractor in my future.


I have always enjoyed writing. But I realized today that I really only enjoy it when its on my terms. Like most things in my life. I can name a few things I enjoy no matter what, and I wish writing was one of them. I do not enjoy technical aspects of writing, nor do I like having a deadline, especially when I’m not fond of the topic.

So this is college life again for a 33 year old trying to work full time and raise an 8 yr old girl who thinks she’s 30!

I have been laying in bed for an hour, don’t even feel tired, not sure if it’s adrenaline because I want to finish this assignment or what but I do know that I will have to sleep sooner or later.

I have been trying to write a poem for/about someone dear to me. I have a bunch of thoughts and lines on paper but nothing seems good enough to put together. I’m going to continue to work on it and hopefully when the lul of college assignments hits (spring break) I’ll finish it.


College has started for me again. The experience so far has been so so. I actually failed a quiz on purpose to make a point! I was not that person a few years ago. And I was flipping through my Reading book and found some delightfully controversial essays. All I can think about is if those get assigned to me my professor is going to wish I was not in her class. OMG! College is looking to be a new and different experience from last time I was in board.

Wish me luck, and my professors too.

Worth it

We put ourselves through things often thinking it’s worth it for the reward at the end. What if the reward seems to slowly slip away? Do you continue in the path because it’s the right thing to do? Or do you stop putting in the effort and back away? I have struggled with many things in life. Most of the past 4 years I have felt rewarded in my job. Lately, not so much. I still give it my best everyday and I hope that it gets better. But the last year I feel like nothing has improved or changed and I want something different. I am trying to still give it my all and sneak out on the side to put my efforts into something else. Nothing is promised and sometimes I doubt myself but I keep trying.


for the longest time, I wasn’t sure I could truly feel anger. I used to feel angry towards myself, and had very unhealthy ways or expressing it. recently I am realizing I do feel anger, i am just unsure of ways to express it. i usually just put it inside and hide it, then things get all fucked up. Well starting today I am going to start learning how to express my anger in a healthy way. Right now just thinking about doing this is making me anxious and feel like i should just not… I always thought that not expressing my anger made me a good person, and helped me feel unconditional love towards everyone. Not sure how to go about this, right now I want to express anger but it is coming out as crazy, like I want to text text and text until I get a response… almost like my anger wants to induce anger in someone else…